self love: what it is and why it matters

“Self love requires you to be honest about your current choices and thought patterns and undertake new practices that reflect self-worth.”  – Caroline Kirk

self love, defined

self love is defined as a desirable characteristic where someone pays attention to their happiness and overall well-being, however, self-love is different for everyone.

what self love is for me

I found myself slipping. I was neglecting myself and my needs. I couldn’t sleep, shower, eat – take basic care of myself. I felt as if my life meant nothing. I felt like nothing. It was as if I were on pause, while everyone else kept on living.

I was not the person I had once been. I was different, I had changed, I was empty. I was upset that I had allowed myself to feel this way and get to the point where I was constantly unhappy.

My thoughts, at times, were consumed with wondering how I had arrived to this point. I questioned myself: how did I get here? how did I let myself get here? I recognized that I was the issue, yet did not realize I was the solution.

One day, things took a dark turn. I no longer wanted to exist. This was when I realized I needed to take a step back and re-evaluate what I was doing and how I was feeling. I knew I needed to take the necessary steps to feel better. Somewhere inside of me, I knew I deserved better than how I was treating myself and realized that how I was treating myself was the problem.

why self love matters

Self love is a deep and fundamental process for well-being and health. At the end of the day, you are your biggest commitment and you cannot allow yourself to feel low and live your life being unhappy. Self-love is about self-compassion, self-respect, self-acceptance, caring about your health, and about falling in love with life. Self love can change your perspective on the the world around you.

Not practicing self love can worsen your condition, make you feel stuck, and can lead you down dark paths. You deserve better than going through life not caring about yourself.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call 911 or go to the emergency room.
If you are concerned about your long-term safety, please speak to someone:
Good2Talk, a post-secondary students helpline: 1-866-925-5454
Here 24/7, a mental health crisis service: 1-844-437-3247
Reach out to a friend, family member, or book an appointment to meet with a counsellor.


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